I’m sure that if you had the budget and didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings then you would invite everyone from the office. However, we all know that this isn’t always possible. So what do you do when you only … Continue reading
When it comes to wedding church ceremonies a common question that pops up is who sits where. Follow these simple tips and advice for a seamless flow.
Where do our parents sit?
The parents of the bride sit on the left in the first pew, while the groom’s parents sit on the right of the first pew.
How about our immediate family?
It’s always best to reserve the first few pews on either side, as these will seat the rest of your immediate family. Your ushers should ideally have a list of these family members, so they can easily be escorted to their seats.
Ditch the tradition?
Now, the wedding ceremony seating etiquette I mentioned above is the traditional way of doing things. However, in these modern times more and more people are throwing tradition out the window and asking their guests to not pick a side and to sit where they please.
Other things to consider…
- If you have any guests with a physical disability it’s probably best to reserve them a seat at the end of the pews
- Elderly relatives should be seated as close as possible to the front.
- Guests in wheelchairs or on crutches should sit at the end of a pew.
Hope this helped! If you’ve any question leave a comment below…
I’m sure that if you had the budget and didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings then you would invite everyone from the office. However, we all know that this isn’t always possible. So what do you do when you only want to invite some of your work colleagues? Well, you’re not just going to invite a colleague just for the sake of it, you’re more likely to invite someone that you have lunch with, meet up with outside of work etc. So, once you have decided on your final guest list, and sent out invites, let your invited colleagues know that you want to keep ‘wedding talk’ to a minimum when in the office. This way those that you have not invited won’t feel excluded or offended. It’s all about sensitivity, and to treat others how you would like to be treated in a similar situation. You should also bear in mind that people do understand how expensive weddings can be and therefore those who didn’t make your guest list should understand why you could not invite everyone.
If it’s not hard enough organising a wedding guest list, planning exactly where everyone will dit can be another tedious task. Now, you might be thinking, well why can’t everyone just sit where they want? Well, that’s always an option, however, a lot of guests do prefer to be assigned to a seat. Plus, if you’re having a sit down meal and some of your guests have special dietary requirements, it makes it easier for the waiters and waitresses to find them.
The first place to start is with your immediate family e.g. parents, grandparents, close uncles and aunties. You may decide to have some of them on the top table with you, however if you decide not to it’s probably best to have them as close to your table as possible.
When planning the rest of the tables stick to these guidelines to ensure a stress free process:
- Mix family and friends of similar ages together as they are more likely to get along better and find it easy to make conversation
- Wherever you can try and sit friends together, especially if you’re inviting work colleagues
- Whatever you do, do not split up couples
- If you’re having children, designate a table especially for them with games and activities to keep them entertained
Do you have any tips and advice for stress-free table planning? Would love to hear from you. Let me know by leaving a comment in the box below.