How do we ask for money instead of gifts? This is a question that more and more couples are asking, as asking for money instead of physical gifts is now becoming the norm. Many couples live together before getting married and already have the standard household items, such as a toaster, kettle, or dinner set. On the other hand, some pay for their wedding themselves, and would therefore prefer the cash to go towards their honeymoon or other special purchases. Some of you may be finding it difficult to find the right words for your request, so here are my tips and advice on making it easier (and of course polite!)…
Honeymoon Gift List
If you are asking for money that will be going towards your honeymoon, then why not check out sites such as Buy Our Honeymoon, Honey Fund, or even your local travel agents who should be able to set up a holiday gift list for you. This way your family and friends can contribute towards a gift you really want. You’ll be thanking yourselves when you’re lying on the beach sipping yummy cocktails.
Write a Poem
Drafting a short and sweet poem is also becoming popular when asking for monetary gifts. Here are just a few that I’ve found:
“So what do you get for the bride and groom
Whose house needs things in every room?
When shopping for a present please don’t be rash
As there is always the option to just give cash!
We hope you don’t find our request to be funny
But we really would appreciate a gift of money”
“We’ve been together for a few years now
We have pots and pans and linen and towels
We have glasses and toasters, really quite a few
So instead of more gifts, we suggest this to you
If it doesn’t offend and it won’t send you running
What we would really appreciate is quite simply money
We know choosing gifts can be such a pain
And this way there is no chance of bringing the same”
“If you’re thinking of giving us a gift
to help us on our way
a gift of cash towards our honeymoon
would really make our day
Then while we’re relaxing on the beach
or by the pool so blue
we’ll sit back and know that
it is truly thanks to you!”
Get to the point
However, if you’re still cringing at the thought of a poem, then just make it simple and straight to the point:
“Your presence at our wedding is all that we wish for. However, if you want to give a gift, we will be grateful for a small cash donation towards our new future together.”
Are you asking for monetary gifts rather than opting for the traditional gift list? I’d love to hear what suggestions you have!