Wedding Etiquette: Asking for Money

How do we ask for money instead of gifts? This is a question that more and more couples are asking, as asking for money instead of physical gifts is now becoming the norm. Many couples live together before getting married and already have the standard household items, such as a toaster, kettle, or dinner set. On the other hand, some pay for their wedding themselves, and would therefore prefer the cash to go towards their honeymoon or other special purchases. Some of you may be finding it difficult to find the right words for your request, so here are my tips and advice on making it easier (and of course polite!)…


Honeymoon Gift List
If you are asking for money that will be going towards your honeymoon, then why not check out sites such as Buy Our Honeymoon, Honey Fund, or even your local travel agents who should be able to set up a holiday gift list for you. This way your family and friends can contribute towards a gift you really want. You’ll be thanking yourselves when you’re lying on the beach sipping yummy cocktails.


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Write a Poem
Drafting a short and sweet poem is also becoming popular when asking for monetary gifts. Here are just a few that I’ve found:

“So what do you get for the bride and groom
Whose house needs things in every room?
When shopping for a present please don’t be rash
As there is always the option to just give cash!
We hope you don’t find our request to be funny
But we really would appreciate a gift of money”

“We’ve been together for a few years now
We have pots and pans and linen and towels
We have glasses and toasters, really quite a few
So instead of more gifts, we suggest this to you
If it doesn’t offend and it won’t send you running
What we would really appreciate is quite simply money
We know choosing gifts can be such a pain
And this way there is no chance of bringing the same”

“If you’re thinking of giving us a gift
to help us on our way
a gift of cash towards our honeymoon
would really make our day
Then while we’re relaxing on the beach
or by the pool so blue
we’ll sit back and know that
it is truly thanks to you!”


Get to the point
However, if you’re still cringing at the thought of a poem, then just make it simple and straight to the point:

“Your presence at our wedding is all that we wish for. However, if you want to give a gift, we will be grateful for a small cash donation towards our new future together.”

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Are you asking for monetary gifts rather than opting for the traditional gift list? I’d love to hear what suggestions you have!


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Chasing up the Wedding RSVP’s

Managing your guest list and chasing up guests that haven’t yet RSVP’d can leave you pulling your hair out! However, you need to bear in mind that there will always be a few people who will take their time to do so or just simply forget!

My advice on dealing with this aspect of your wedding planning in the most streess-free way possible is to first create a spreadsheet of all of your invited guests. Next, organise the guest names into those that have RSVP’d and those that are yet to do so. Now the chasing begins… however, if you feel that you or your finance are not up to the task, why not get a few members of your wedding party to do the job. Alternatively, you could enlist the help of a wedding planner who would be happy to take the stress off your hands.

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Wedding Etiquette: Bridesmaid dress dilemma

A bridesmaid dress is really only going to be worn once. For this reason, some believe that forking out a lot of money on a dress is just not worth it. Some brides will pay for their bridesmaids dresses and some will expect their bridesmaids to purchase their own. If you are a bride that is opting for the latter  I believe the best thing to do is to sit down with all of your bridesmaids and have a chat about what would be reasonable for everyone to spend (and afford).

If you want your maids to wear a dress that is not within their budget, then you may want to consider paying for some of the cost, or at least pay for their accessories e.g. shoes, jewlery etc.

Remember that you have chosen them to take part in your wedding so be considerate and avoid being a bride-zilla!!


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Wedding Etiquette: Catering for Different Diets

How do I accommodate for all the different dietary needs at my wedding?

It’s virtually impossible to please every single guest at your wedding but at the same time you should always keep in mind that most of them will be open to what you have to offer. However, to ensure the majority of your guests are pleased with their meal I have two options for you to choose from.

Option 1: If you’re having a three-course meal make sure you have at least one meat option and one vegetarian option for each entree. This way those that don’t eat meat or anyone one that’s on a diet will be satisfied.

option 2: An alternative would be to opt for a buffet style meal. This way you can incorporate different varieties of food, allowing guests to have more choice and ultimately they will be able to pick out what they want and like. 

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